When developing business relationships, there are some specific pitfalls to be avoided:
• Relationships, like construction projects, are not built in a day. Do not become a stalker. It’s easy to overdo it, especially when an upcoming pursuit is on the line. If you’re not careful, you can become a pest. This is shooting yourself in the foot. To avoid this trap, go slow and look for signs of reciprocation.
• Don’t boast or tell white lies. This should go without saying, but we’ve seen it happen. There’s a lot to be gained from staying humble, and having humility on your side. One little lie, or half-truth, and you may be damaged forever. Worse yet, your poor reputation will spread, and it will damage your efforts with other clients (and likely your own colleagues).
• Good news travels fast, bad news travels at light speed. If your firm makes a mistake or gets bad press, be sure to reveal the information to clients with whom you’re trying to build a relationship. It’ll sound better coming from you, than from your competition.
• Keep it platonic. We’ve watched technical professionals develop personal relationships that lead to dating, significant other-ship, and more. We suppose sometimes these things can’t be helped, but nine times out of ten they’re never good. They create a perception of the ultimate conflict of interest and often damage both parties in the eyes of their colleagues.
• Don’t even try to be all things to all people. In an age of specialization, the client knows you can’t be an expert on more than a few topics. Bring the subject matter experts with you to discuss complicated issues. You’ll be respected and the client will gain an appreciation for the depth of your firm’s capabilities.
• Heighten your sensitivity to the competition. Do they periodically meet with you to discuss teaming opportunities? Assume the worst– that they are using you to perform their own triangulation of your positioning with the client. If the teaming discussions never lead to anything, then they may be using you.
• Never cross the line into territory that is illegal, unethical, or immoral. We could tell stories that curl your hair. Many of the rules, policies, or laws that apply to procurements are in place for good reasons. Though contracting rules tend to apply more to the buyer, you would be well advised to become cognizant of them because what makes your client look bad will also drag you down. One of our favorite tests is to consider how an idea, event, or gift will look on the front page of your local paper. If you don’t like how it would look, then it’s not worth it.